I can sexualize myself and portray myself as sexual without objectifying myself. I can be as sexual as I want and still command respect.
Sexual person ≠ sexual object.
Owning your sexuality is far from objectifying yourself.
This depends if the person you’re sexualizing is able to consent. I would argue that the sexualization of a 7 year old is always going to be objectification. As much as I want to sexually empower youth, I don’t think there’s room in society to have sexual 7 year olds who are not objectified. And if the 7 year old says, “I choose this,” I would really question that “choice.”
“When I want to know what misogyny is, I don’t ask a man. When I want to know what racism is, I don’t ask a white person. When I want to know what homophobia is, I don’t ask a heterosexual. When I want to know what transphobia is, I don’t ask a cisgender person. When I want to know what ableism is, I don’t ask an able-bodied person. The contours and definitions of oppression are best articulated by the oppressed.”—Son of Baldwin
“When I was a student at Cambridge I remember an anthropology professor holding up a picture of a bone with 28 incisions carved in it. “This is often considered to be man’s first attempt at a calendar” she explained. She paused as we dutifully wrote this down. ‘My question to you is this – what man needs to mark 28 days? I would suggest to you that this is woman’s first attempt at a calendar.’ It was a moment that changed my life. In that second I stopped to question almost everything I had been taught about the past. How often had I overlooked women’s contributions?”—